ESSENTIALS OF EMOTIONS
"Cheat sheets" to help identify what you are feeling! Notice the words of different intensities. Use these words! Validate yourself and...
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Jan 24, 2023
Is your best attempt at validation getting thrown back in your face?
Maybe you are not really an emotionally connected kind of person. You have no idea what your loved-one is feeling and they don't either....
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Jan 5, 2023
Are you feeling STRESSED?
Maybe you are more like frozen in fear, suffocating in humiliation, or exploding with rage? How can you possibly RELIEVE and even SOOTHE...
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Dec 15, 2022
Family Resources for Talking about Suicide
When Marsha Linehan, PhD, developed Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) in the 1980s, she originally intended it to be used for treating...
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Dec 15, 2022
But I tried to help!
Emotional Activation Escalates Invalidation Invalidation Escalates Emotional Activation When the transactional nature of invalidation and...
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Nov 9, 2022
The Practice of Mentalizing
Inquisitive and not-knowing Presence A fundamental presence that includes empathy, genuineness, a nonjudgmental attitude, positive regard...
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Nov 7, 2022
More about “Mentalizing”
Dogs are the second best mentalizers, right after humans! 😉 Mentalizing occurs when we are trying to make sense of behaviors. It...
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Nov 3, 2022
Attention and Mental Health
"Few things affect our lives more than our faculty of attention. If we can't focus our attention - due to either agitation or dullness -...
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Oct 31, 2022
What is "Mentalization?"
Mentalization-Based Treatment (MBT) was developed as a treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder by Bateman and Fonagy in the U.K....
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Oct 11, 2022
Are you "enabling" those angry verbal attacks against you?
No, I am not blaming the victim here. People are fully accountable for their own actions and anyone who screams, shouts, blames, swears,...
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Oct 11, 2022
DBT 12-Week Family Workshops
Do you have a son or daughter or other loved one who is emotionally volatile and blaming you for all their problems? Perhaps they are...
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Oct 3, 2022
Getting Better Rest
The importance of rest and sleep cannot be underestimated. Lack of alertness, impaired memory, increased vulnerability to emotional...
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Sep 22, 2022
The Importance of Language
Polemic: (definition) A forceful written or spoken argument against something, especially an opinion or belief. The act of participating...
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Sep 12, 2022
Radical Acceptance
is not helplessness, hopelessness, or lack of change. Denial: "I can do 99 things just the way my wife says she wants them, and if the...
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Sep 5, 2022
Self Soothing with 5 Senses and 2 Dimensions
No matter how rough things are for you right now…Especially if it seems like there’s no end to your difficulties…You deserve relief. When...
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Aug 23, 2022
Self-Inquiry: Key to being an emotionally healthy adult
"It is really about self awareness. We cannot be more connected to other people than we are to ourselves.” Brené Brown What might happen...
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Jul 31, 2022
At the edge of a "disordered" personality?
The label, "borderline personality disorder" (BPD) is simply inscrutable. It describes nothing about this mental illness and it sounds...
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Jul 26, 2022
Wiser Minds: Mindfulness of Thoughts
This is an essential DBT Skill! There are a lot of ways to deal with negative, critical, or worrisome thoughts, but what we cannot do is...
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Jul 11, 2022
ANXIETY: It's not what you think!
The Merriam-Webster dictionary has several definitions of anxiety: 1. Apprehensive uneasiness or nervousness usually over an impending or...
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Jun 7, 2022
ER3: Problem Solving
If we can change the emotion by solving the problem, then first solve the problem! Problem solving is an emotional regulation strategy...
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