FAMILY & INDIVIDUAL COACHING

I know you are a sensitive person, and I might add exquisitely sensitive sometimes. I know that I can say or do things that trigger an intense reaction, which can be a very unpleasant experience for you. It can be hard for you to believe I would do or say those things without realizing how hurtful they are.   I can see how much thought you put into trying to fix confusion and prevent emotional pain. I can see how much energy you put into trying to help me understand what I di

A guide for parents, partners, and loved ones Who am I? Where am I going? Can I understand others clearly? Can I stay close and connected? Personality functioning refers to how a person experiences themselves, manages their life, understands others, and maintains relationships—especially under emotional stress. For people with borderline personality disorder (BPD), strengths may shine through at many times, while moments of emotional or relationship stress can lead to real c

The holidays have a way of showing us how quickly old patterns return. We can react not to what is happening now, but to years of past experiences. We hope for connection, kindness, or understanding—and feel disappointed when things don’t go as planned. Even people with years of meditation practice, advanced social and emotional skills, or decades of experience in family psychology can find themselves angry, hurt, or exhausted during their own family gatherings. We may arrive

Healthy family bonds reflect a balanced, respectful connection between adult children and parents or grandparents, between partners or spouses, or between adult siblings. You may have experienced so much dysfunction in some of your family relationships that you don't remember or perhaps rarely experienced a balanced and respectful family connection. Like any genuine friendship, these are bonds that need to be nourished again and again. How? What are they supposed to look like

Family life is full of intense emotions, deep bonds, and—sometimes—misunderstandings that leave us feeling disconnected. The good news is that there’s a powerful skill you can learn to transform your relationships: mentalizing.

What does control have to do with it? Families familiar with Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) understand its effectiveness in managing emotional dysregulation, particularly for loved ones with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). However, fewer families are familiar with Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RODBT), a complementary approach especially beneficial for addressing emotional overcontrol—a pattern sometimes observed in individuals with BPD and in some t