FAMILY & INDIVIDUAL COACHING

Family life is full of intense emotions, deep bonds, and—sometimes—misunderstandings that leave us feeling disconnected. The good news is that there’s a powerful skill you can learn to transform your relationships: mentalizing.

What is mentalizing? Good mentalizing is inquiring deeply into understanding the mental experiences of self or other. It is trying to figure out all the nuances of what made a person do or say something. It might be actively wondering how a person interpreted or related to the words or actions of another to generate the worry, anxiety, and agitation that we see and hear from them. It could be contemplating with curiosity what is driving one's own anxiety or tiredness or any o