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Mentalizing in Families: The Key to Understanding and Connection
Family life is full of intense emotions, deep bonds, and—sometimes—misunderstandings that leave us feeling disconnected. The good news is that there’s a powerful skill you can learn to transform your relationships: mentalizing.
Jul 31


Undercontrolled vs Overcontrolled
What does control have to do with it? Families familiar with Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) understand its effectiveness in managing...
Jun 10


Validation and Mentalization
Supporting a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be an emotionally intense and...
Jun 5


Core Mindfulness Skills
A REMINDER AND REVIEW FOR SOME. VALUABLE NEW PRACTICES FOR OTHERS. If you have a difficult relationship, these core mindfulness skills...
Mar 21


Prevent Escalation of Conflict
Three Core Skills Urgent and unrelenting crises of your loved one can leave you and others in the family feeling chronically overwhelmed....
Feb 4


Avoid Authority or Appeasement
Both responses sustain aggressive and violent behaviors If your loved one often engages in insistent demands and impulsive behaviors, you...
Nov 20, 2024


Worried about the holidays?
The year-end holidays can be wonderful and also sources of stress and frustration. Families share more time together. Food, rituals,...
Nov 13, 2024


DBT therapists have a Consultation Team. Families need a Support Network.
The more you comply with demands for isolation and secrecy, the more reclusive and volatile your loved one becomes. Before you know it, your
Oct 1, 2024


The “Bathroom Break”
Start small when it comes to reducing verbal attacks against you or not contributing to an escalating emotional crisis. The bathroom...
Mar 17, 2024


Strategies for parents of high-anxiety youth who are failing to launch into adulthood
"The phenomenon of highly dependent adult children who are not actively engaged in productive occupational, educational, or vocational...
Nov 26, 2023


ER1: Check the Facts
Does the emotion fit the facts? Emotions can trigger thoughts and interpretations about events and they can distort our perception, which...
Sep 9, 2023


The Slow Drip
A slow drip can dissolve rock, cut mountains in half, and reshape the planet. Can it cut through the stonewalling of your stubborn love...
Aug 3, 2023


Trying to regain control over your own reaction to your emotionally reactive family member?
That is where reducing conflict begins! Do you feel like a deer in the headlights in front of your reactive husband? Does your son or...
Jul 27, 2023


Is it BPD or Narcisism or Anti-social or…?
It seems there is not much difference! If you look at the “DSM-5” (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) you know that...
May 9, 2023




What makes this DBT Family Workshop so special?
A few people have asked me how my workshop differs from others out there. I love to meet informed persons who research the options that...
Feb 3, 2023


Is your best attempt at validation getting thrown back in your face?
Maybe you are not really an emotionally connected kind of person. You have no idea what your loved-one is feeling and they don't either....
Jan 24, 2023


Are you feeling STRESSED?
Maybe you are more like frozen in fear, suffocating in humiliation, or exploding with rage? How can you possibly RELIEVE and even SOOTHE...
Jan 5, 2023


Family Resources for Talking about Suicide
When Marsha Linehan, PhD, developed Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) in the 1980s, she originally intended it to be used for treating...
Dec 15, 2022
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